- [00:08] In today’s episode I’m very excited to introduce you to Stephen M.R. Covey to discuss his book, The Speed of Trust.
- [02:35] Stephen will share with you his “economics of trust” equation plus a bonus qualitative measure of trust that didn’t make it into the book
- [04:47] Stephen shares about himself and his father.
- [06:25] He has a feeling of stewardship and responsibility to try to carry on his father’s legacy and the great work he has done. He is very proud of his heritage.
- [08:41] In his case there was somewhat a transference of trust from his father to him, but not completely. He had to earn it as well.
- [10:20] Stephen shares his experience with a large group of naysayers in the merger and how trust made it work.
- [11:49] There is a risk to get real and be transparent, but there is a greater risk of not doing it.
- [12:31] The power of going first—of being transparent and vulnerable—invites reciprocity back. The vast majority reciprocate and that is powerful.
- [15:40] The key to influence is to first be influenced. In the words of his father, “Seek first to understand and then to be understood.”
- [16:27] Understanding is not necessarily agreement. If people feel understood they feel much more open to your influence.
- [17:29] Trust affects everything. Trust is also learnable as a skill.
- [18:50] Trust always affects two measurable outcomes: speed and cost. When the trust goes down in any relationship in an environment you will always find that the speed goes down with it and the cost goes up. That is a low-trust tax.
- [19:56] When the trust goes up in a relationship, the speed goes up and the cost comes down. That is a high-trust dividend.
- [22:34] Stephen shares a few illustrations of the speed of trust from his book.
- [23:24] Client referrals offer a transference of trust.
- [28:21] The cost of distrust is very real. The speed goes down and the cost comes up.
- [31:19] Smart trust is having your propensity to trust and balancing that with your analysis. Start with the heart and you will see possibilities you would never see otherwise. Then balance that with your head.
- [33:46] The vast majority of people respond well to being trusted and they rise to the occasion. They perform better, develop capabilities, and reciprocate by giving the trust back to you.
- [36:02] Most leaders can be far more trusting than they are being. Our big challenge is that we are not trusting enough.
- [37:47] There is actually more control in a high trust culture than there is in a rules-based culture.
- [39:02] Two great practices are to declare your intent and assume positive intent as a starting point. Be trusting as well as trustworthy.
- [41:19] It can help you build trust enormously well and fast to have a process for accountability upfront.
- [43:01] Energy and joy are the two keys on the qualitative side. When the trust goes up in a relationship, the energy and joy in all forms go up with it.
- [45:01] In high trust cultures people are more energized, more engaged, less stressed, and less burned out.
- [47:13] Inspiration is the new engagement. Inspired employees are far more productive than engaged employees.
- [47:49] To be trusted is the most inspiring form of human motivation. It brings us the very best in all of us.
- [49:44] Melina shares her closing thoughts.
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Speed of Trust: The One Thing That Changes Everything By Stephen M.R. Covey
Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life By Nir Eyal
FRICTION―The Untapped Force That Can Be Your Most Powerful Advantage By Roger Dooley
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Past Episodes and Other Important Links:
- Episode 78: How to Become Indistractible, Interview With Author Nir Eyal
- Episode 72: Friction – What It Is And How To Reduce It, with Roger Dooley
- Episode 87: Social Proof: How to Use Herding to Boost Engagement and Sales
- Episode 21: Habits: 95% Of Decisions Are Habitual – Which Side Is Your Business On?
- Episode 23: Reciprocity: Give A Little, Get A Lot
- Episode 102: Confirmation Bias: How Your Subconscious Beliefs Shape Your Experiences
- Episode 46: Biases Toward Others – Including Groups
- Episode 92: Fundamental Attribution Error: Why the Pot Insists on Calling the Kettle Black
- Episode 32: The Overwhelmed Brain and Its Impact on Decision Making
- Episode 62: Game Theory: Life And Business Are A Game…Do You Know The Rules?
- Episode 15: Availability: Why People Are More Likely To Get Flood Insurance Right After a Flood
- Episode 19: Herding: Come On And Listen…Everyone Else Is Doing It
- Episode 16: Framing: How You Say Things Matter More Than What You’re Saying
- Episode 112: The IKEA Effect and Effort Heuristic, a Behavioral Economics Foundations Episode